If I’ve made a mistake, I’m the kinda cat that will admit it. So let me be the first to admit, I wrote off Juelz Santana way too soon. Being new to Instagram, I decided to follow artists and celebs … Continue reading →
2013 is about growth for me. It’s about moving from here to there. From where I am to where I plan to reside for the rest of my adult life. And to get anywhere, you have to start putting one … Continue reading →
My brother, Chango, is a fool–and I love him for it. He’s the only one who truly understands what it was like being raised as the son of David, our father. Chango makes for a fascinating character study. He’s like … Continue reading →
I’ve already stated that Something’s Gotta Change in 2013. There’s really not a way I can keep doing my daily routine and maintain my sanity. Professionally speaking, I see 4 viable options to choose from: 1. Stay at my company and … Continue reading →
The recent murder suicide of Kansas City Chiefs linebacker Jovan Belcher has caused me to take notice of the need for people to see men in a new light.
Men and women think that men are supposed to always be strong and show very little emotion. In a relationship women have a tendency to think of a man as less than a man if he admits his fears of being able to properly provide for his family or any fears that he may have that would cause his woman to want to leave him.
I find myself bucking the rules I’ve grown up on. And with each new push of the mental envelope, I find myself in new territory. A new mental space. The larger this space becomes, the more difficult it is for me to operate within the confines that I’ve grown up accustomed to. It’s suffocating.
When I was originally inspired by this post, I thought of a number of things that I needed to let go of: friendships, relationships, familial bonds, thoughts, emotions, memories – pretty much anything that continued to weigh me down as I continued on my path forward. While that still is true, the re-blogged post about whiteness and beauty made me think of other things that people need to let go of: traditions and beliefs.
2012 has been an interesting year to say the least. This is the year I decided to take back control of how my life unfolds. Having the control and realizing you have the control are two different things. I expect a lot of changes in 2013.
I started this site in mid-2012 to document my journey and hold myself accountable to myself and my written word. It has been a journey. The site is about honesty, self-discovery, pushing boundaries, redefining normal, and the search to fulfill your personal potential. So here are the top posts that helped define the site’s voice in 2012.
I wanted to wait until my site transferred to its new home using this 100th post as my debut article. I’ve had some delays in getting there – technical issues, timing issues, or just life issues. We’ve all been there. … Continue reading →
isomKuade.com will soon become isomKuadejournal.com Yep, I’m going self-hosted. Doing it for a number of reasons, but guess it should be sooner rather than later. I’ve done a lot to get my readership to the small but respectable figure it … Continue reading →
So it’s December, and I haven’t posted anything in while. Looks like the site getting blocked drove a nice wedge in my workflow. It was bound to happen, right? Along with all the other projects going on, it’s been difficult … Continue reading →
I used to be one of those people who honestly thought and held the perception that white-skinned Caucasians were the ultimate epitome of beauty.
That is, when I was living in South East Asia, I genuinely regarded Caucasians and people with fair skin and blue eyes as physically attractive, thinking “whiteness” was what you needed in order to be beautiful inside out.
Whenever it was blazingly hot and sunny outside in Malaysia or Singapore and I wanted to go out, my mum would incessantly nag at me to stay in the shade or else I would “get all black” and ugly. I always naively obliged thinking she was Mrs. Know It All.
I would also always gawk in admiration at Caucasians who strolled around here as the thought “oh wow, they are so beautiful” whirled around in my head.
Unfortunately, during the Thanksgiving holiday, my site was flagged and shut down due to an automatic flagging system WordPress.com has. After some back and forth with WordPress, I’m back up, but it was unfortunate. They apologized. Shit happens, I get … Continue reading →
I go phases of music the same way I go through food cravings. I might stick with Meek Mill for a solid 2 months while picking up a bag of spicy chicharrones every time I stopped at the gas station. … Continue reading →
This is my 93rd post, article, rant, whatever. Since late June of this year (2012) I started writing and haven’t stopped yet. I have a vision for this site, and honestly hope to give it up one day. I want … Continue reading →
This article was originally posted on Tim Ferris’s blog, Experiments in Lifestyle Design. This is definitely one worth reading. Completing your personal goals is a formulaic process, not a preordained one. Let us start with a quote, often misattributed … Continue reading →
Much like the Huffington Post, I’ve been thinking of starting a section on the blog dedicated to overcoming fear. As Farrah Gray stated, “Everything you truly want is on the other side of fear.” Here one of my Leaders of … Continue reading →
Originally posted on Bougie Black Girl: Image by Dario Urruty Whenever I hear a Black Woman call herself a “strong Black woman” I roll my eyes and automatically think mule. You know the animal that works hard and carries everyone’s load. Little does…
Unemployed Black Woman Pretends to be White, Job Offers Suddenly Skyrocket
If you don’t believe that racism in the job market is real, then please read this article by Yolanda Spivey. Spivey, who was seeking work in the insurance industry, found that she wasn’t getting any job offers. But as an experiment, she changed her name to Bianca White, to see if employers would respond differently. You’ll be shocked and amazed by her phenomenal story.
Before I begin, let me quote the late, great, Booker T. Washington who said, “Of all forms of slavery there is none that is so harmful and degrading as that form of slavery which tempts one human being to hate another by reason of his race or color.”
For two years, I have been unemployed. In the beginning, I applied to more than three hundred open positions in the insurance industry—an industry that I’ve…